Do you fight for yourself or do you fight against yourself? All too often we find ourselves actually fighting against ourselves. This happens when we have a plan and then encounter obstacles. Instead of facing those obstacles we often tend to want to just turn around and go another direction. Does this sound like you? At one time it was certainly me.
Years ago my dad was really sick, and spent a long time in the hospital. (Praise be to God he is better and we haven’t had to go through that trail again.) During that time there was conflict over his care at the hospital. He had to have physical therapy and unfortunately he a different therapist each day who repeatedly expected more than he was capable of doing. This treatment left behind a feeling of frustration and hurt. I stepped in and spoke up, demanding he have a regular therapist who could honestly see his progress and thus provide proper therapy and encouragement. Some years later my mother was in the hospital and while there I learned they were take blood for tests that had not been authorized by a doctor. Again, I stepped in and demanded that the next test I would be contacted and they would not be prescribing medication until I spoke with her doctor. Immediately those tests were stopped, and guess what, she didn’t need them because she’s fine and healthy.
When it’s someone I love and care about I will always stand up and fight. I refuse to allow my loved ones to be mistreated. So why don’t I do the same thing for myself? As long as I can remember I have allowed others to walk all over me. Sitting back and biding my time, often hurt or frustrated, but coping in silence. With no one to stand up and say, “No, you will not do that to my loved one”. Truth be told I shouldn’t need anyone to stand up for me, I should STAND UP for myself. This is my life after all, and no one can live it better than me or God would have given it to someone else.
So now I take a stand, I take that fire and fight I have for my loved ones and I implement it for myself. This starts with understanding self-worth and learning to demand and expect that others treat you the way you deserve. When you see your own value and you hold yourself accountable for that value then you start finding it easier to expect that value from others.